How to Leave WMSCOG

Step 1: Document & Build Outside Support

Start now, before you announce you're leaving:

• • Save all texts, emails, and voicemails from church members
• • Document every contact from this point forward
• • Alert a trusted friend or family member outside the church
• • Reconnect with old friends they discouraged you from seeing
• • Consider joining ex-member communities (r/WMSCOG, examiningthewmscog.com)

Step 2: Financial Disengagement

• • Stop tithes and offerings immediately (or reduce gradually if needed)
• • If financially dependent (housing, job), secure independence first
• • Save money, update resume if employer is connected to church
• • Ensure access to your bank accounts and important documents

Step 3: Set Your Boundaries

You don't owe anyone an explanation. Keep it simple:

If they persist, use grey-rocking:

• • Don't debate, don't show emotion, don't explain
• • Repeat like a robot: "I'm not discussing this"
• • Then walk away or end the conversation

Step 4: Execute Your Exit

• • Block phone numbers, social media accounts, and unknown/blocked numbers
• • Don't answer the door if members show up
• • Don't sign any documents they present (NDAs, "release forms," etc.)
• • Alert local police or building security if needed
• • Warn family not to give out your contact info

Step 5: Maintain Boundaries After Leaving

Expect harassment (calls, visits, "emergencies"). They will:

• • Call from blocked numbers when you block their personal numbers
• • Show up at your house, work, or school unannounced
• • Contact family members to "rescue" you
• • Use fear tactics (hell, disasters, death)

Your response: Silence or "I'm not discussing this." Document everything. If harassment escalates or continues beyond a few months, consider legal action.